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My New Year Resolutions and Goals for 2021

Well, here we are again. I make this post every single year and every single year a few months go by and I forget about it. This year though, and after a year like 2020, I’m bound and determined to keep my expectations low while still working *mostly* towards progress everyday. I’m determined to give myself grace, not set myself up for failure, and focus on controlling only the things that I can. I survived 2020 mostly by doing exactly that – controlling what I can. And what are those things? What are those things I keep in my own little box of control? Well it’s not much, but it’s taking care of my family and my marriage, prioritizing my physical and mental health, and showing up for my job the best that I can.

Before I dive into my goals for this year, let’s take a look back at my goals from 2020 and how they turned out. (Remember when we all bought planners last January and made BIG goals for the year like traveling more and living our best lives? HA! What a silly idea that was.)

  • For sure run half marathon #9 and maybe #10. – This was my first goal to be 2020’d. My 9th half was supposed to be at the end of last March. Lolz.
  • Not get pregnant or EVEN REMOTELY THINK ABOUT IT until Barrett turns 2. – SUCCESS
  • Run twice a week and track my mileage. SUCCESS
  • Continue with Beautycounter but low-key. SUCCESS. In fact, I continued it so low-key in fact I didn’t hit my sales quota and will once again be dropping my consultant status. Oops. (And my discount. Sad face.)
  • Buy a new (used) bigger SUV to replace my Escape. SUCCESS! Helllllooooo Honda Pilot!
  • Stay at my current weight or below. SUCCESS! Down 14 lbs babbyyyy!
  • Spend more 1:1 time with Adeline. Semi-success I’d say. I could have done better. Much better. But, we did have several slumber parties with Mom and a few 1:1 date nights.
  • Blog 1-2x a week and no more than that. Huge fail. I blogged 23 times total in 2020, the least of any other year.
  • Take Adeline to Disney’s Magic Kingdom for her 5th birthday. I don’t want to talk about this because it genuinely makes me really sad.
  • 1 date night a month with Adam. Semi-success? We had a few extra babysitters this year so it could have been worse.
  • Get caught up on my one-line-a-day journal through the end of 2019. Fail. This is something that has simply fallen off my plate and I have given up on trying to scoop it back up.
  • Re-do our countertops and backsplash. SUCCESS!
  • Financially – keep our savings account at XYZ and not let it dip below. Cut way back on what we spend eating out. Use cash more often. Pay off Adam’s truck. Fail.
  • Do a family hike at least once a month. Semi-success. We definitely got out of the house more as a family and the kids have been loving our little weekend adventures! Barrett regularly requests to ‘hiiike’ and it’s very adorable. Oh, and we started a family outdoors Instagram account that has semi-morphed into my new running account, but you know. We’re trying!

Ok so there’s my report for 2020! It’s really not that bad now that I’ve looked through them a bit more. 2020 in a lot of ways was a horrible, horrible, piece of poop year but in a lot of ways it was also a year I wouldn’t trade. There were things about it I would trade, sure, and I’m not sure I’d want to do it all again, but I’m a big believer in living without regrets and I believe in my heart that God knew 2020 was coming and I faith that we will be stronger because of it. My kids aged another year, and I wouldn’t trade the memories we made this year for anything. I hate that they had to experience 2020, and I pray they don’t remember most of it, but I do pray they remember how much extra time they spent with Mom and Dad and that we got through it together.

Anyways, let’s dive into my goals for 2021!

  • Grow our family. I’m not putting it in writing that I mean with a human, maybe it will be a puppy, who knows. But, I do feel like my heart is open to another little one and I’m praying about what that might look like.
  • Sell our house and buy a new one. We are dying to get out of our neighborhood and downsize to something on a bigger lot, with more trees. We honestly just feel suffocated and want more space to breathe and hate being approximately two feet from every neighbor. Our current house has been perfect for this season, but we’re ready for a new one.
  • Pay off my car.
  • Move my body 5 days a week. Whether that’s running, walking, hiking, biking, playing at the park with the kids – anything to just MOVE and be active.
  • Run 15-20 miles a week. I averaged roughly 20 miles/week during 2020. There were some weeks I topped out closer to 25. At the beginning of the year my goal was to run 10 miles a week, so I’m proud of myself for exceeding that.
  • Run the entire Knob Hills trail. This is doable anytime really, it’s just a matter of having the time to do it. The entire trail is about 13 miles.
  • Run a trail race. I have already signed up for the Outlaw 100 Trail Half Marathon in February, so, here we go!
  • Run 10 half marathons before another baby. Again, this was spoiled by 2020 but I’m hoping to finally bring my total to 10 before I even think about another pregnancy.
  • Buy a spin bike for the garage. I’ve got one picked out for my little garage gym but I don’t want to snag it until we know where we’ll be living.
  • Take 2 long weekend trips just Adam and I. We did this back in August when we did our NWA trip and it was one of my favorite memories of the year. (Still need to blog about it!)
  • Fly home to TN at least twice. I was able to fly home one time last year and that was with Adeline in October. I’m hoping to make it up there at least twice this year and get my family down here as well. Pending Covid of course.
  • Get Adeline into an activity of her choosing. She’s already picked gymnastics and had her first trial class last week!!
  • Replenish our family savings account and reconvene our weekly budget meetings to help us stay on the same page.
  • Be at peace with letting things fall off my plate. Say no more.
  • Focus on friendships that matter and take more initiative to do so.
  • Better manage my time between work/life. This is HARD for me to do as someone who works from home A LOT. But, I think setting up some boundaries will be super helpful.
  • Make time once a week to sit down and blog. More realistic plan – once a month. I debated and prayed and debated and prayed about shutting down my blog entirely this year. But, it’s been such a huge part of me for the past 7, almost 8 years that I just can’t bring myself to pull it just yet. I’m over the whole influencer thing, and truly just want to blog like the good ‘ole days, whenever and however often that may be. And if 2021 ends up like 2020 and I truly have zero time for it, then I will probably say bye in 2022.
  • Celebrate others more. As a type 3, and this is not an excuse, I have a hard time rejoicing and celebrating others and NOT internally only celebrating myself. I want to make it a goal to be more intentional about praising others and adding positivity to their day!
  • Continue 1:1 time with Adeline. We’ve loved our slumber parties and it’s always a special time for both of us.

So there you go. 2021, I truly hope this year is headed in a better direction than 2020. But, like I said earlier, we can only control what we can control.


  • Reply
    January 9, 2021 at 7:16 am

    Love to read your posts!! Wonderful

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    January 9, 2021 at 11:06 am

    I agree on controlling what we can control in 2021- glad you decided to keep blogging! I’m on board with writing like the old days!

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      January 12, 2021 at 6:47 pm

      I’m on board with it for one more year of paying my hosting, ha! Even if it’s one post a month I’m going to at least ATTEMPT it in hopes I can keep it alive. I just feel like I need this outlet still and I can’t get rid of it just yet!

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