Happy Friday friends! Correction, Happy Friday the 13th!
If you’re superstitious, be extra cautious today! And if you almost didn’t realize it was even Friday the 13th, then don’t even worry about it, and I hope a black cat doesn’t cross your path.
Yesterday was a workout-less day, and instead I met up with a large group of women from church for an evening of food, chatting, and Bunko. Saying I went to Bunko makes me sound like I’m 80 years old, but it’s actually enjoyable and an easy “social” game! Tonight’s Pizza Night in the Ingle household, so I might squeeze in another 4 miler tonight before dinner, and hopefully another long run tomorrow morning! Check out the weather forecast for this weekend…
I think that’s going to make my 8 miler MUCH more enjoyable! A 60 degree run sounds uh-mazing.
Before I get into today’s topic, I wanted to share a super cute pregnancy announcement photo I did for some friends 🙂
Things I Wish I Had Been Told In College…Before I Graduated
This morning when I checked my email I had the sweetest note from a blog reader! She’s actually one of my favorite blog readers because I think we are long lost twins…only she’s living in Orlando and I’m in Little Rock. Seriously though, I feel like we’re on the same page with everything, especially career wise! She’s currently interning at an ad agency and is learning SEO! She took my advice and started reading 48 Days To The Work You Love and is on her own path to figuring out exactly what kind of career she wants and how to make that happen. She closed out her email with this…
“Again, I’m SO happy I found your blog! It’s nice to have someone to look up to with such confidence and similar interests. I’m graduating in December and it’s a crucial time of learning/growth in my life. I’m really trying to figure out what I want to do NOW so I don’t waste my time being unhappy, and your blog really pushes me to search for that!”
How cool that someone I don’t even REALLY know, reads my blog and actually gets something more out of it than just my workout log and silly dog pictures. That makes me so happy! It really got me thinking about when I was at her stage in life and then I started thinking about all of the things, looking back now, I wish someone had told me before I graduated.
1. I wish someone had told me to not get so caught up in picking my major, but to still make an informed decision and KNOW what the job outlook is like for that major. Chances are, once you’re in the workplace your employer won’t care what you majored in anyways, but if your degree is in art history, it might make it tough to even land a job anywhere. Even though most employers these days care about your abilities and skills, your personality and your drive, rather than what a piece of paper says, having a degree, like business, that is transferable across numerous industries could be extremely beneficial. Especially if you aren’t sure of a specific field you want to go into, which leads me to #2…
2. I wish someone had told me that it’s okay if you don’t want to be a doctor, or a lawyer, or a teacher, or a nurse, or an engineer. I struggled with this for YEARS and tried so hard to make myself fit into one of those molds. I beat myself up over it for way too long, and thought that something was wrong with me because I didn’t WANT to go into a “professional” career. I thought maybe I was lazy, or not as smart, or had less ambition than my friends who knew since they were children that they were “meant” to be nurses, etc. I thought something was wrong with me because I didn’t grow up always having this DREAM of what I would “be when I grow up.” I grew up seeing my dad as my family’s breadwinner and provider, and my mom stayed home most of my life with my brother and I. I just always assumed that was normal, and I never had it engrained into me that I needed to “pick something” to be when I grew up. So, I looked up to my mom as a stay at home mom and wife, and that’s what I always said I wanted to do. And maybe one day that IS what I’ll do, and I hope and pray that it is, but that sure made it tough in college to sort through all the majors and figure out what I needed to major in and what I would “be” until that time in life. Maybe if both my parents had worked outside the home I would have seen my mom as having a “career” and I would have thought more about it, but I think it’s all about how you were raised in the end. I wouldn’t trade my mom staying home with us for anything in the world. So, nothing is WRONG with you if you don’t have aspirations to go into a “professional” field or some hard core ridiculous major that requires years and years of post-graduate study. You’re not less intelligent, OR less successful.
3. I wish my advisors in school knew what they were talking about, and didn’t campaign for their own departments. Obviously they have to, but I wish my advisors had been honest with me and told me about the job market, and I wish my advisors had recognized that maybe I really shouldn’t have majored in what I did. I wish my advisors were able to tell me, “this is your chance of getting a job in this…this is where you could work, this is what it will pay, this is what grad school would cost, this is how much you’ll make after grad school, etc.” Or maybe they did and I just didn’t listen. Probably the latter.
4. I wish someone had made me read 48 Days To The Work You Love. I know I talk about this book all the time, but it was the first thing I ever read that actually helped point me in a direction. I think every college freshman or sophomore should be REQUIRED to read something like this before they waste thousands of dollars on classes that are useless and have no direction.
5. I wish someone had told me to stay in school as long as possible. (Ok, I wish I had listened to those who DID tell me that). I graduated in 3 1/2 years, and often times wish that I had stayed 2 more semesters and finished out a double major. I wanted to get out of school so bad, I was “over it”, and wanted to hurry up and grow up and move on to bigger and better things. Now, I did work my tail off to graduate in 3 1/2 years, even after transferring schools twice, and I took 2 full summers of classes to pull it off, and I’m still proud to say I graduated early, but looking back now, it didn’t even matter. I spent that next “off” semester working a ridiculously humorous job, then moved back home with my parents, where I worked another ridiculous job for a mere 3 months before experiencing my first “lay off”, before finally getting my first job post-college that I actually wanted to do and actually somewhat related to my degree. I wouldn’t change a thing, and I’m thankful for each experience I’ve had because I truly believe everything works out the way it’s supposed to, but I sometimes wonder if some heartache would have been saved had I spent a little longer in school, figured out a little better what I wanted to do, finished out my business degree, and THEN started into the real world.
6. I wish someone had told me to save more money in college. Thankfully, my parents were blessed to be able to pay for my college education, and for that I will FOREVER be thankful, but I wish I had saved more of what I made from my part-time jobs and summer jobs. Why didn’t I throw everything into a savings account and not touch it until after my wedding? I also wish someone had told me to save all that money I made during high school! But, can’t go back now, can we?
7. Speaking of money, I wish someone had given me a better crash course in personal finance while in college. Even though I didn’t personally have loans, I wish someone had better explained to me how they worked, who Sallie Mae is, what interest rates are, and how they affect your future financial situation because now-days the odds of marrying someone with student loans is super high, and the odds of BOTH people bringing loans into a marriage is even higher and I don’t feel like anyone ever explained to me how student loans would impact our future. I think every student should be given a breakdown of “if you major in this, you’ll probably make this, and if you have X amount of loans, this is what type of monthly payment you’re looking at, and it will take this long to pay off X amount of loans, and preferably you need to strive for an income of X amount to make those payments, and then if you go to grad school and take out loans you’re looking at this, etc.” I also wish a REAL personal finance class was a REQUIREMENT in college. I took one for my business minor, but it was crap. Literally, we didn’t do anything. We learned how to balance a checkbook and that was about it. A personal finance class that is relevant to today’s market and economy NEEDS to be taught to EVERY student out there. I learned more about finance working at an investment firm for 8 months than I did in ANY business class I ever took in college.
8. I wish someone had told me how GOOD I HAD IT IN COLLEGE! Oh my goodness, if I could go back to college I would in a heartbeat. Seriously, talk about living the sweet life. You have your friends around you all the time, your schedule is heavenly, the biggest stress you have is passing the next test, you can pull the “poor college student” card anytime you want, you’re literally just living the life for 4 years. And. It. Flew. By. I always heard people say “college will be the best 4 years of your life” and I never understood that, but now that I’ve been out of school for a little while and in the “real world” oh my stars it is probably the most accurate thing ever!
9. I wish someone had told me to really soak up GIRL TIME. And to some extent I think I did, and my mom always told me how much I would treasure my time with my girlfriends, but didn’t really understand that until I left college, got married, and moved away from home. It is so hard to keep up relationships once you’re no longer living a few dorm rooms apart, or in the same tiny town!
10. I wish someone had told me that you aren’t defined by what you major in, where you get a job after college, how much you make right out of school, or even if you’re STILL trucking along in college…5 or 6 years later. Everyone takes a different path, everyone goes at a different speed, not everyone has their path already carved out for them, and not everyone takes a direct path to get to where they’re going. So, don’t hate.
11. I wish someone had told me that someone is ALWAYS going to make more than you, have a cooler job than you, receive a “better” opportunity than you, own a bigger house than you, own a cooler car than you, and have a more “perfect” life than you. But, it doesn’t matter! What matters is that you make the most out of the cards YOU’VE been given, and not sit around wishing you had taken the doctor route, or trying to make yourself think that “if I had only gone to graduate school right away I’d be as happy as they are and make as much as they do,” or if only I had majored in finance I could be making X amount right now and we’d “be so much happier.” Lies. Just live your life, and be content.
Thoughts? Anyone else ever struggle with trying to “decide” what to “be?”
Big plans for this beautiful weekend??