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A Husband and Father’s Health Journey

Happy Friday all! Adam here, checking in before the week is out just so you guys don’t forget I’m here. I have a couple new posts that I am currently working on including my journey to not be a weak fat slob as well as a husband’s side of miscarriage. But it’s friday, so we’re just going to keep it light with a little more get to know me.

Since, at its inception, this was a fitness blog, let’s dig into that side of things. I was always active growing up between sports (every guy in Texas had to play football) and working manual labor jobs…but I also liked to counteract those benefits by having a deep love for computers and electronics as well as living in a family that loved cooking. By the time I left high school, I was in the best shape of my life, but that was because I had coaches that would yell at me for six hours a day to push myself harder. Once that was gone, things changed.

I was one of the lucky ones who did not get that freshman 15. I was too busy fishing, hunting, or trying to impress girls on the rock wall and slackline to put on that weight but then Sarah rolled around. Now I’m not saying that Sarah made me fall off the watermelon wagon of healthy living, but having a serious girlfriend living in a different state does not fare well for maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Sophomore year was not as generous to me as before. My weight started to rise as I spiraled into the depressed state known as a double major in Accounting and Finance. I hit my max college weight Spring of Sophomore year and that was not a great time. After some talks with teachers that knew me better than I knew myself, I changed my major to Management Information Systems and my mental health quickly crawled back to normal levels, but my physical health lagged behind as I spent more time behind a computer screen than ever before.

If there are any college students out there reading this post, please remember this one take away: your school probably has a gym, that gym is probably free, and that free gym is probably filled with at least a few attractive people to motivate you to hop on that elliptical. I soon realized that I needed to take breaks from the computer when my eyes started bothering me from staring at a screen (plug for Gunnars, the best computer glasses around). Every 20 minutes, I would force myself to at least walk around the room or step outside. On top of that, I made it a goal to have an active heart rate for at least 45 minutes a day. This kept my mind fresh and my gut not flabby.  I kept this going, on and off, for the next couple of years until the summer before I graduated when I got engaged.

At this point in my life, Sarah hit her stride in running. She was running races all the time and I was turning into a professional cheerleader and bag holder. I knew that I didn’t want to look like a fat guy next to a super fit girl on the altar, so I kicked things into high gear. I was living alone in an apartment at this point which was walking distance to Kroger and had a great running path just outside my door. That path was my best friend for around nine months and when I left college, I was in the best shape since high school…then marriage happened…

I think that’s long enough for now; I watch enough superhero movies to know that you need to end on a cliffhanger. A lot changed between our wedding day and today, but the biggest change is Adeline. I am a firm believer that it is a father’s responsibility to be strong for the family, so that is where I am working towards today. Come back next week to hear how my health habits changed in the last five years. Until then, good night and good luck.

Did your health habits change when you got married? What about after you had a kid? Did you feel like you were in the best shape of your life in high school or college? What motivated you to change your health habits?

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    Heather
    December 1, 2017 at 9:06 am

    Hello, Adam! Love that you’ll be contributing to the blog now! I gained weight my freshman year of college and was just generally not healthy with my lifestyle choices. I found that getting married and being able to control my groceries and allowing myself time to workout was what led me to be my healthiest.
    Now, I’m back to square one at 5.5 months postpartum trying to learn how to fit in exercise with a baby while nursing, etc. Also, it’s harder to eat healthy when I don’t have much time to prepare the food these days!
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      Adam
      December 1, 2017 at 9:27 am

      Even though I didn’t grow a baby, I definitely had some pregnancy weight gain spurred on by Sarah wanting tacos and cheese dip every night.

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        Heather
        December 1, 2017 at 1:28 pm

        Absolutely! I know my husband has been enjoying more carbs while I’m breastfeeding too hahaha 🙂
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    Virjinia
    December 1, 2017 at 9:09 am

    It neat that we will be hearing your side of the story too! I know guys goes through ups and downs to with weight but we hardly hear about them. Marriage was a big one for me and I gained a lot of weight soon after we got married. Now, I’m in the best shape of my life and it started with small goals. Can’t wait to hear more!
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      Adam
      December 1, 2017 at 9:28 am

      Come back next week to get the last five years summed up. I’m working my way back down but I’m currently at my max weight.

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    Katie
    December 1, 2017 at 3:27 pm

    I would say my approach to health is better with a kid than when we were just married- having the extra motivation of setting an example helps a lot!
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      Adam
      December 1, 2017 at 3:43 pm

      That’s how I feel. Before Adeline, I wanted to look good for my wife, but now that Adeline is in the picture, I want to be a big strong dad.

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    Kimberly
    December 3, 2017 at 8:24 pm

    You are setting such a good example for your daughter. In my opinion, that makes you an awesome Dad!

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      Adam
      December 4, 2017 at 8:32 am

      Thank you very much!

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    Kaitlyn
    December 4, 2017 at 2:24 pm

    I love having your perspective on here, Adam! That’s so much fun and refreshing to see, and as a new Sweet Miles reader, I think it’d be fun to see other blogs do this! Also, nice Mean Girls reference in your bio. Can’t wait to read more!
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      Adam
      December 4, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      I appreciate the encouragement!

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