Every year, along with the rest of the world, I like to look toward the New Year with a plan of sorts. Instead of setting resolutions though, which feel more like unattainable broad ideas, I like to set specific goals. Last year’s goals I purposefully made fairly simple. I was newly pregnant with Barrett (secretly!) and knew the year would come with a lot of question marks. 2019 though, is feeling like it will be much more stable, Lord willing. No pregnancies, no babies, we’re not moving again, we’re not changing jobs (hopefully!), and we’re finally getting settled into a good rhythm as a family of four. I’m hoping 2019 is going to be all about focusing on exactly that – our new family of four, as well as myself of course.
I usually like to welcome the New Year with a brand new planner. But, I’ll be honest – mama ain’t got time for that this year. I love a good planner as much as the next type A person, and have tried just about kind imaginable, but after a few months, it just becomes one more thing I feel like I have to do. And by halfway through the year, I’ve abandoned ship and given up on it completely. One of my goals this year is to maintain a less full plate, and one of the many things I’m taking off my plate is trying to keep up with a planner. I have found that updating my google calendar through work, and syncing it with my personal google calendar, as well as using a family calendar in the kitchen is more than enough for keeping up with my personal happenings and our family’s schedule. Day-to-day tasks and to-do’s can be jotted down elsewhere. So for the sake of simplifying where possible, I’m finally ridding myself of the pressure of feeling like I need a planner.
There seems to be a trend these days of setting a focus word. If I had to pick just one word for 2019, it would be ’embrace’. I want to embrace the craziness of this next year, and roll with the punches. I’m living the life I always wanted and always dreamed of, and it would be a great injustice to myself to not embrace it and enjoy it, even the hard times. I want to embrace the mess, the emotions, and the imperfect. I want to embrace the fact that life is a little chaotic at times and raising a 3 year old alongside a baby is challenging. My biggest source of sadness right now is how quickly time passes, and I hope I can better embrace each and every moment of this season that is so fleeting.
We also recently listened to a podcast where the guest was an author who advocates solutions for frantic families. He suggests parents create a mission, and a rallying cry in order to help your family live with more intention. The mission is your family’s mission statement, what you stand for and want you strive for, and your family’s rallying cry is like your family’s big focus – what is your family willing to put all of their energy towards together for, no matter what? Like what is the one thing you all want to accomplish, and are willing to make sacrifices for? We haven’t sat down and determined our mission statement or our rallying cry yet, but I would say both will revolve around ‘togetherness’ and getting our family in a better place financially in order to spend even more time together in the future.
For this year’s goals, I’ve broken them out into categories – Fitness, Family, Finance, Travel, Home, Friends, Self, and Blog.
- Get back in shape, specifically, run half marathon #8, lose the last 5 lbs leftover from my pregnancy with B, tone back up, and firm up my core.
- Join Camp Gladiator? (big fat maybe)
- Have a date night with Adam at least once a month
- Spend more 1:1 time with A, do a special date with her every other week
- Make our family 2018 yearbook and B’s first photo books (by end of January)
- Say ‘no’ to any extra obligation, commitment, or activity that causes unnecessary stress and/or that doesn’t bring our family joy or grow us closer together
- Pay more of Adam’s truck off
- Sell my SUV and downgrade to a more gas efficient car, with a lower car payment
- Start B’s college fund
- Fly to TN with both kids and Adam in the springtime
- Make it to the beach in August (trip is already booked!)
- Start putting away money toward hardwood floors in the dining room and living room
- Build a raised garden in the backyard
- Declutter and cut down on “stuff” we don’t need, donate every couple of months
- Do a girls night at least once a month
- Only post positivity on social media, nothing negative
- Keep less on my plate at all times
- Increase blogging income and switch advertising networks
- Post 3 times a week, and take the occasional week off
What’s one of your goals for 2019? Do you break them out or do you focus on one word?