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Why Church Is Non-Negotiable For Our Family

I received the following product for free as part of my participation in Zondervan’s Z Blog Squad. All opinions are my own.

When it comes to talking about church and religion, it really can be a touchy subject. Especially in the internet world where trolls roam free. Everyone has different beliefs, was raised differently, and views the topic in their own unique way. And while it can be a topic that people shy away from, and often are discouraged from posting about, I felt the need to dive in and share my thoughts! I’ve mentioned our involvement with our small group and our Sunday morning church antics a lot on the blog, so I thought I might discuss it further from my perspective. And remember, this is just what works for us! Not here to judge anyone else’s beliefs or portray ours as being superior.

Growing up, not going to church wasn’t even an option – you went every time the doors were open. Sunday morning, Sunday night, and even Wednesday night if you were really a super Christian. Call it a southern Bible-Belt thing maybe. I always thought my parents were crazy, and wondered how I would want to raise my own family. But now that that day has come, and I have the freedom to make my own decisions, I appreciate more and more how hard my parents worked to instill not just the habit of going to church, but the foundational values and beliefs that make me want to go. Going to church on Sunday mornings is quite simply just a part of our life now. I couldn’t imagine us not going, and making an effort to get involved with our church family. We started taking Adeline when she was just 4 weeks old, and even though Sundays are stressful, tiring, and downright difficult with naps, church will always be a priority in how we raise our kids.

So, today I’m sharing my thoughts on why church is non-negotiable for our family. Now, before you roll your eyes at a religious post, hear me out! Grab a cup of coffee, and stick around – I promise I won’t ramble.

12 Reasons Why Church Is Non-Negotiable For Our Family…

  1. It’s how we were raised, and quite simply, old habits die hard.
  2. When you live away from family, church helps provide a sense of community as well as a built in support system.
  3. We enjoy surrounding ourselves with like-minded people our age.
  4. There is value in building relationships with people going through the same life stage as you.
  5. We want our kids to grow up with the feeling of “home base” that church provides.
  6. Teaching our kids to love Jesus, and be Jesus, is a top priority for us.
  7. The lifelong friendships that kids form at church are irreplaceable, and I want Adeline to have access to these friendships if she chooses to pursue them.
  8. Being involved in the youth group provides countless opportunities for service, fellowship, and mentoring.
  9. It’s a great way to start the week, recharge your mind, your soul, and pray/meditate however you feel comfortable.
  10. It provides one more opportunity for kids to learn to respect and listen to adults other than their parents, i.e. Sunday school teachers, nursery workers, etc.
  11. The 1-2 hours you spend at church is another 1-2 hours you spend together as a family, strengthening your family unit, your marriage, your values, etc. Kids might ignore what you say, but they’ll remember what you do!
  12. BONUS – It’s an hour to drink your coffee in peace. (Assuming the baby goes to the nursery!)

Even though Adeline is only 19 months old (WHOA she’s closer to 2 than 1, somebody hold me!) she’s already got a sweet collection of Bibles, and children’s books containing Biblical stories. I have to admit, they’re pretty darn cute! I can still remember my Precious Moments Bible from when I was little, and I hope Adeline will form some sort of attachment to one of her little books as well!

We recently received an adorable beginner’s Bible, full of shortened versions of some of the most well-known stories in the Bible. It has a little handle, and a magnetic closure so Adeline can tote it around, and melt my heart in the process. Each page has a colorful picture, appropriate for children, and each page has just a few sentences. If you’re interested in checking it out, you can find it on zonderkids.com!

Do you make church a priority in your family? If not – what IS one of your priorities? What does your typical Sunday look like?

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    Katherine
    May 25, 2017 at 9:37 am

    You talk about small group but what exactly is it? What does it typically look like? I live in the Northeast and its definitely not something I hear about but have seen multiple bloggers talk about meeting with their small group.

    I don’t go to church regularly but is something I would like to start doing more.

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      Sweet Miles
      May 25, 2017 at 9:55 am

      Ah! I didn’t even realize I hadn’t really explained it 🙂 Basically instead of our church having a service on Sunday nights, everyone is split up into similar ages and life stages and we all meet in each other’s homes for dinner/fellowship once a week. Our small group are all around the same age as us, young kids, or young married, and a lot of them are friends we actually went to college with.

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    montessoriishmom
    May 25, 2017 at 10:45 am

    I loved going to church growing up. I need to find a new home church near where we live now. Right now, my little guy (almost 8 months) loves the lights and music at church, but has a hard time making it to the end of the servie…he is an ACTIVE guy. I definitely want him to grow up going to church though!
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      Sweet Miles
      May 30, 2017 at 11:10 am

      Haha Adeline is definitely past the point of sitting in our laps! She will last about 5 minutes before she jumps down and runs towards the nursery. Or down the aisle. Or stands up on the pew and tries to converse with everyone behind her. It’s quite comical, but we sit with all of our friends who have kids so no one ever cares haha

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    Melissa
    May 25, 2017 at 1:52 pm

    Love that you touched on this topic! And I’m glad you’re already praying for your new church home in Texas. I have one Bible for Claire that’s something like Bible stories for little girls. It’s really cute but it’s meant for ages 4-7 so not really appropriate for her age yet. She could use a younger version that will make sense to her. We do read an Easter book every day and she can say “Jesus” though so that’s a win in my book!

    #2 is my biggest reasons for making church a priority since we will never live near family, at least not anytime soon. And maybe #12 haha!
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      Sweet Miles
      May 30, 2017 at 11:09 am

      Glad you appreciated it! Haha love that she can say Jesus – mom win for sure! 😉 And YES to #2 – it is so, SO helpful!

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    Bethany
    May 25, 2017 at 8:41 pm

    I love that you are brave enough to touch on this topic. Church is so important!

    1 Corinthians 12:12
    The body is a unit, though it is made up of many parts; and though all its parts are many, they form one body. So it is with Christ. (NIV)

    1 Thessalonians 5:11
    Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. (NIV)

    I believe finding a church home is so important. So does God! It is sad that people have had negative experiences that pull them away. We have set a priority to raise our children in church. I am not going to lie though…..night service has been a struggle with my son’s sleep. It is something we are working on.
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      Sweet Miles
      May 30, 2017 at 11:08 am

      Thank you! I completely agree – I hate that it has scared some people away. I know everyone has different priorities in life, and different beliefs, but church has just always been a foundational part of our family that I couldn’t imagine not carrying that over to my own kids now. Love those verses you shared – thank you 🙂

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    Katie
    May 25, 2017 at 9:55 pm

    i also go to church most sundays, i think it is a great tradition, and one i hope to share with my future family as well.
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      Sweet Miles
      May 30, 2017 at 11:03 am

      Glad to hear that Katie! It can be tough to get motivated to make it, especially after a busy Saturday!

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    Katie
    May 25, 2017 at 10:30 pm

    WAIT, you can drink coffee during church? So jealous. 🙂
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      Sweet Miles
      May 30, 2017 at 11:02 am

      HAHAHA right?!!! Growing up no one EVER drank coffee in our church, like, no way. But me and Adam’s current church, and his family’s church is allll about some coffee and donuts before/during service 🙂

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    Heather
    May 26, 2017 at 10:22 am

    Thank you for this post! In the last few years, my husband and I have gotten out of going to church. However, we recognize the importance and want our son to grow up with a faith in God. Now that he is almost three, we are on the hunt for a church that we like. It can be so hard, though, to find one that you mesh with!
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      Sweet Miles
      May 30, 2017 at 11:00 am

      I’m glad you appreciated it! Church-shopping can be so tough, you are right – and it takes soooo much time! Good luck in your search, I’m sure you guys will find the perfect match 🙂

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    Lindsay
    May 31, 2017 at 8:56 pm

    I was raised going to church every sunday, going to a christian school, chapel on wednesday morning, and church on wednesday nights. By the time I got into high school I wanted absolutely NOTHING to do with church. It was too much. I was tired of having the bible shoved down my throat. I am fortunate that my parents gave me space once I got to college and now as an adult I go to church when I feel the need and don’t feel like it is my job to go anymore. More power to going if that is what you feel called to do.

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