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Barrett: 6 Month Update

6 months old. Half a year. How is my baby already 6 months old?!

Barrett is still just the sweetest little guy, and really goes with the flow as long as he’s not hungry or wet. (I mean, don’t we all?) Adeline has been absolutely loving his new little personality that’s starting to emerge and I think it’s safe to say they’re going to be best buds. It melts my heart into a puddle of mush when I see her loving on him, and when I hear him just giggle and giggle at her is beyond cute.

This has also been the toughest month by far! Sleep was horrible pretty much the entire month. Like, truly horrible. I don’t want to harp on it, because it sounds so negative, but sleep has really been our greatest struggle this month and we’ve been living in a constant state of exhaustion it feels like. It seems to come in waves, and just when we have a good night, we have 5 awful nights right after and we’re back to square one. This month it also felt like someone in our family was constantly sick, and we just couldn’t catch a break! So that didn’t help our spirits either. (Anyone else feel like their baby has had a cold for MONTHS?!) But, I don’t ever want to sound ungrateful, because it is not lost on me how blessed we are to have this healthy baby, even if he sucks at sleep currently. We’re just taking it day by day, and are constantly reminded that this is just a season – a season that will pass so quickly. At the time of me writing this, I think he’s actually finally on the upswing, so we shall see!

Let’s get to his update. It’s a long one, so grab a cup of coffee if you’re ready to listen to me ramble! (Also a reminder that this is spanning the start of month 5 through start of month 6, technically, Jan 7 – Feb 7. So, he just turned 6 months old, if that makes sense.)

Size

Barrett is still a big boy, weighing in at 17 lbs 9.5 oz (50%) and 27.75″ (89%). I feel like he’s bigger than the 50%, because he feels SO heavy! I also think he would have probably hit 18 lbs if he hadn’t gotten so sick a week or so before his 6 month appointment. He’s wearing size 6 month or 9 month clothing, though 6 month stuff is getting tight/short and 9 month stuff is still a tad too big but gives him just enough breathing room that it seems comfortable. Also still in size 3 diapers. And as usual, his thighs are so delicious I COULD EAT THEM UP!

And yes, tear ducts are still clogged and causing goopy, water eyes. When he’s congested or has even the slighted cold, they get worse and we have to really keep them clean and wiped off constantly. Poor guy, I know he’s so sick of it!

Likes

  • Mostly same as last month, plus –
  • Being tickled, ESP being tickled by Daddy
  • Having raspberries blown on his belly
  • Sleeping on his side
  • Sleeping in his crib
  • Napping in his crib
  • Being home with mom and dad!
  • Being on a schedule (didn’t really get him on a schedule until just recently though)
  • Bath time with Adeline
  • Rolling over from back to tummy
  • Standing up (being held in a standing up position)
  • Being tossed in the air
  • Gumming, mouthing everything
  • Holding small objects
  • Finding and grabbing his paci on his own
  • The nursery at church
  • Sitting up assisted
  • Solids – puree’s
  • Laughing at Adeline
  • His toes
  • Nursing quickly and efficiently
  • Kicking his legs in the bathwater
  • Rocking and falling asleep on my shoulder or chest
  • Stroller rides
  • Sleeping in bed with Mom in the early morning

Dislikes

  • Mostly same as last month, plus –
  • Sleeping
  • Vomiting
  • Diaper changes, starting to roll and wiggle out of them
  • Getting cold after a bath
  • Flipping onto his tummy for too long
  • Being overtired
  • When I try to get him to nurse but he’s just not hungry
  • Being distracted while he’s trying to nurse
  • Being in the carseat for too long, sometimes he likes it and will nap, and sometimes he’ll just play, but sometimes he just still hates it
  • His goopy eyes, wiping them or picking off the gunk
  • Ear infection again
  • When Mommy leaves him
  • Daycare
  • Merlin’s sleep suit
  • His dry scalp
  • Getting water in his eyes in the bathtub

Current Routine

Our routine for this past month really was pretty similar to 5 months, with the exception of the last week of the month when we pulled him out of daycare and started keeping him home full time. Sleep was honestly pretty horrible the majority of the month, and I’d easily say it’s been the most difficult month all around, without a doubt. We had many, many sleepless nights, tried all the things, and truly felt like we were on a rollercoaster all month. Most mornings he ended up in the bed with me, and Adam would go and get on the couch. We pretty much just survived the month, and tried to get sleep no matter what it took. (I didn’t hate the extra snuggles in bed though!)

Since I’ve already recapped what our typical routine looked like at 5 months, which you can go back and read HERE, I’m going to instead dive into what our routine looks like now that he’s home. (This is about to be super long, so if you don’t care feel free to skip ahead.)

So now that he’s home, our mornings are a little less stressful and rushed. Just a little though, because of course we still have to get Adeline up and ready and out the door on time. Most mornings, Barrett would be ‘up for the day’ anytime between 7-8 AM. Once he wakes up, I’ll nurse him while Adam gets Adeline ready to head out the door. Somedays he takes her, and I stay home with B, and somedays he has to head across town and Barrett and I take her. Once we’re home, or once A is off to school with Adam, I get started on work while B plays on his play mat or in the bouncer. I knock out any emails, plan out my day, mentally take note of my calendar, and take a few minutes to drink my coffee and eat breakfast before the day gets too crazy. B is usually ready to nurse again around 9 or 9:30 AM and wants to go down for his first (or second depending on how you look at it) big nap of the day around 10 AM. Depending on what’s on my calendar, meeting wise, I can usually rock him and get him down for his nap fairly easily. Sometimes I’ll just sit and work in the glider while he sleeps for 1-2 hours and sometimes I’ll head back downstairs if I have meetings. While he sleeps, it’s work, work, work. Once he wakes up, he’s usually ready to nurse again around noon. I’ll nurse him, and then let him play for another hour and a half or so before he starts to get tired again. While he plays, I usually lay on the floor next to him with my computer, or let him lay on the couch next to me, or we’ll head back up to his room and he’ll play on his rug while I work in the glider. He then wants to go down for nap #2 around 1:30 – 2 PM ish, depending on the day. He usually takes a much longer afternoon nap than a morning nap, so I can usually count on that for wrapping up my afternoon work load. Once he wakes up, he wants to nurse again, then by that point the work day is just about ready to wrap up. Also by that point, Adam has picked up Adeline, and arrived back at home. Then begins the dinnertime rush!

We try to have dinner ready by 6 if possible, so while it cooks (usually a sous vide something!) we’ll play in the living room or the backyard, or take a walk, then get ready to eat. B will want to nurse again (sometimes not though), then he eats a puree at dinnertime when we eat dinner. After dinner we’ll listen to music, and play, then get the babies in the bath around 7 or 730. I try to get B fed again and down for bed by 8, and then the nighttime is just kind of up in the air. Some nights he’ll wake up before midnight, and again around 2 or 3, and again around 6. Some nights he’ll sleep until 3. Some nights he’ll scream all night. Some nights he’ll wake up at midnight and just want his paci. It honestly has just been a mess, but I think we’re slowly improving now that he’s mastered rolling from back to tummy, and his most recent ear infection is clearing up.

The first half of the month B was still sleeping in our room in the pack n play, so pretty much anytime he’d wake up I’d just put him in bed with me and that was that. The second half of the month, we moved him back up to his room to his crib and anytime he’d wake up I’d nurse him either in the glider then put him back down, and I’d go sleep in the guest room, or sometimes Adam would just bring him downstairs and put him in bed with me. Basically we mastered the art of early morning co-sleeping and I’m not ashamed to say it! You gotta do what you gotta do. We’re just now getting into a little more consistency in the sleep department, so I really don’t have much more to say about that until next month’s update. No matter how the night goes though, he’ll either be ready to eat again by 6 then go back to bed, or he’ll sleep until closer to 730 and then he’ll want to eat.

I also want to say that no, B hasn’t always been sleeping in our room. He was actually sleeping in his crib up until the time I went back to work in November and everything started to fall apart. It very quickly became too exhausting going up and down the stairs multiple times a night, which is why he just eventually ended up in the pack n play in our room. Plus, he and Adeline’s bedroom share a wall, and we honestly just couldn’t afford to risk him waking her up, and then have all FOUR of us not getting any sleep. Just recently though we decided we were ready to commit to getting him settled back in his crib in his room and doing a bit of sleep training, so that’s where we are today. Presently, we’re about two weeks into his 6th month, and I honestly think we’ve turned a corner in the sleep department finally. Knock on wood. Nights aren’t perfect yet, but I think a huge source of his wake ups were due to developmental milestones like rolling over, (and that ear infection) and now that he’s finally mastered that skill, he’s not as frustrated during the night. IDK maybe it’s just a theory! Either way, we’re working on teaching him to self-soothe right now, and gently CIO when it makes sense.

Firsts

  • First real stomach bug
  • First double ear infection
  • First solids other than rice cereal
  • First trip to ER, thanks to said stomach bug
  • Baby dedication at church
  • First time rolling back to tummy
  • First time finally getting on some sort of schedule
  • First Valentine’s Day
  • First time eating puree’s (stuck to rice cereal mostly last month)
  • First sibling bath
  • First time in the church nursery
  • First time vomiting in his carseat (looking at you Waffle House incident!)
  • First time spending the night away from Mommy (when I had the flu)

Eating Habits

For the majority of the month, I was still pumping and would normally pump twice a day, sometimes three times if I had time/wasn’t feeling lazy. I’d usually pump 12-14 ounces, with one pump in the morning and one pump in the afternoon. At daycare he’d receive 3 4oz bottles, and would nurse in the morning, and once or twice before bedtime. Now that he’s home though, I just nurse him throughout the day unless for some reason I need Adam to give him a bottle while I work.

This month marked B really becoming quick and efficient at nursing. He’s officially become distracted, and has a case of FOMO if he can sense fun things going on around him. He continually pops off and smiles or giggles at me, or looks around the room if he hears Adeline, so we are the most successful at nursing in a quiet room. He also will NOT nurse if he is NOT hungry, and he will let.me.know.it. His nursing sessions are max 15 minutes, and that’s rare. More often than not he nurses for less than 10 minutes then burps and is done. Bing bang boom easy peasy. I was worried maybe he wasn’t getting enough but I know he’s just mastered efficiency. He’s also still clearly gaining plenty of weight.

He’s pretty much stopped nursing on one side, so while kind of annoying, we’re making it work. It’s amazing what our bodies can do! I’m not surprised though, as one side has always had more of an oversupply and fast letdown than the other so of course he had a strong preference. He also had a double ear infection this past month where he refused to lay to that side, so that didn’t help matters either. I also blame myself because during all those weeks of sleepless nights, I’d often put him in bed next to me (in the middle of the bed) to nurse and I’d always put him on the same side since I didn’t want him rolling off the bed. It was just way easier to nurse him this way so we could both get a little extra sleep. Supply and demand, and well, here we are! Super soaker and the ugly step-sister, but it is what it is.

Solids wise, he’s now officially had rice cereal, pureed sweet potatoes (not a fan), pureed bananas, pureed pears, pureed apples, oats, pureed peaches, and combos of each. I’m not a big fan of starting BLW this early on, and prefer to stick to purees for a little longer until I feel confident he can safely handle actual bites of food on his own. BLW is such a trend I feel like. It’s like the buzz word of starting solids and I feel like there’s so much judgement attached to how you choose to feed your baby solids because of it. Adeline did purees for the longest time, and has always been a fantastic eater, so we’re sticking to what works best for our family for the time being. I’m excited to let him start nibbling on mum-mums and little bites of food pretty soon though. He’s a big boy and I think he’ll start showing interest in the coming weeks.

Little Things I Want To Always Remember

  • When I’m nursing Barrett at bedtime and Adeline comes in to say goodnight to him and she lays her head on him and gently kisses and hugs him
  • The first time he got his toes in his mouth!
  • When he belly laughs at Adeline when she says ‘hi!’ ‘hiiii!’
  • When Adam holds Barrett around a corner and goes ‘yoohoo!’ and he laughs
  • How Barrett cracks up at Adam all the time
  • Barrett’s lazy laugh and big smile
  • Barrett’s smirk smile
  • How excited he is when he sees me, he totally loves me the most!
  • How easily he falls asleep in the stroller
  • How he searches the room for Adeline anytime he hears her
  • His crazy strong karate kicks
  • His burping pattern – there’s always the big burp, then the ‘aftershock’ and it’s been that way since day one!
  • How snuggly he in when I rock him at bedtime and he just melts into my arms
  • Laying in bed after nursing him in the morning, love our cuddles in bed together

We love you Bear! I love watching you grow, sweet boy!

4 Comments

  • Reply
    Tiffany
    February 18, 2019 at 6:58 pm

    Chunky baby thighs are the absolute best! Just wanted to say co-sleeping, purées, BLW, whatever your choice, you do what’s best for your family. No shame!

    • Reply
      Sarah
      February 21, 2019 at 7:59 pm

      Yes yes yes!! Completely agree!

  • Reply
    Emily
    February 20, 2019 at 12:24 pm

    My third baby was having a really hard time sleeping at night and napping during the day, so I enlisted the help of Sarah from Wonderstruck Doula Services (on Facebook). She is incredible and so, so worth it! You fill out a questionnaire, then have a phone consultation where she lays out the current milestones and gives you a plan. She was easily accessible through email or text and made me feel great about conquering baby sleep. I first contacted her when my son was 7 months old and worked with her on and off until he was 10 months. It was an amazing experience. So, if you feel like you’re at your wits end, Sarah can definitely help!

    • Reply
      Sarah
      February 21, 2019 at 7:58 pm

      Thank you for the recommendation! I’m glad you can relate 🙂 I love that she does over the phone consultations – so convenient!!

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